Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Is Oral Sex, Sex?

Follow the link below to the article that prompted this post. I found it interesting. I am 43, and I don't consider oral sex, sex. I do consider it cheating (when done outside of a monogamous relationship), but I don't equate it with full-on sex.

Your thoughts?

Link to article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/04/06/clinton-lewinsky-effect-s_n_527496.html

21 comments:

All This Trouble... said...

Well, I think of oral sex as part of SEX. Blowjobs and intercourse are all a part of the whole.

I am 35. Just so you know.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Trouble,
Interesting to see the different viewpoints. Thanks.

Syd said...

Sex is anything associated with sexual intercourse. So if a mouth goes on the parts of the body associated with sex, then I guess it's sex. I've not been in that situation when something sexual wasn't happening which is another way of looking at it.

Petit fleur said...

It is definitely sexual.. and I would consider it cheating also... because of the level of intimate contact, however, I do not consider it sex either. Especially for men. I mean if we called every situation that a man put his johnson in something sex, then there would be no such thing as masturbation... It's all so confounding.

downtown guy said...

There are a whole lot of lesbians who would disagree with you on that one.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

DTG,
True enough, my brothah. True enough.

You are loved.

Kissa said...

Oral sex isn't the same as sex. Sex is what gets you pregnant. Oral sex is def sexual, and if I caught J doing it, that would def be the end of the relationship because even though it's not sex, it is cheating. It's something of a sexually intimate nature I wouldn't want him sharing with another female.
Call me crazy.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Kissa,
I don't think you are crazy AT ALL. I totally agree. My man would get a beat down.

Love you.

downtown guy said...

Oral sex is sex. That's why it's called Oral SEX and not oral shenanigans. From good ol' Merriam-Webster:

Main Entry: sexual intercourse
Function: noun
Date: 1799

1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : coitus
2 : intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

Sarcastic Bastard said...

DTG,
I figured my SMART brother would find us the answer! Thanks. I adore you.

SB

Steph(anie) said...

I do love me some oral shenanigans!

Priceless.

The Dish said...

I don't have time to read the article (sorry), but in my opinion, oral sex is a lot more intimate than regular sex.

Bethany said...

i don't think of it as SEX either, but my therapist got all weird on me when I tried to explain this and then said, so are what LESBIANS do in bed not sex? I'm like, well if there's penatration it's sex. But then I just got confused.

Mel's Way or No Way said...

I have to say that I consider oral sex to be sex. Otherwise all us lesbians could claim "we've never had sex".

When I was in high school I knew a girl who "wanted to save her virginity for marriage" but had oral and anal sex with her boyfriend since she was not losing her virginity. WTF! Talk about pretzel logic!

Jeannie said...

I'm late to the party but I think oral sex is still sex. I think any kind of messing around touching body parts with the intent to arouse or be aroused is sex. If you were to think of anything someone might do to someone else against their will that has the power to mess them up because it is inappropriate, then that would be a sexual intimacy or sex.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Dish,
I am with you on the intimacy thing. I agree.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Bethany,
Well, tongue penetration could count, right? So maybe that definition holds.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Melly Mel,
Pretzel logic is right. That's fucked up.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Jeannie,
You certainly have some valid points there.

Love you tons.

Ms. Moon said...

I think oral sex IS sex and I think what DTG cited states that quite clearly.
However, there is a saying which I adore, even if I don't believe, which is that Eatin' ain't cheatin'.
I have a feeling that a man came up with that one.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Ms. Moon,
I love that saying. Laugh.

You're right--definitely A MAN!